Wednesday, June 01, 2005
我们都老了...
Interestingly, i had 2 discussions on the topic of dating consecutively on 2 days.
The first one was over supper with xj, after our jap class. we were talking about how good JC days were, the stupid things we do, the funny experiences we had, and how the about-to-end-manga 《彼氏彼女的事情》deeply reminds us that we had missed the oppurtunity to do something memorable for our lifetime... like playing traunt (for me la) haha. We were also talking bout past romatic experiences / encounters. quite funny haha.
The second one is when i met up with my secondary school friends ytdy. Interesting that everytime we meet (which is not often), there'll be another of us getting attached, so they're suggesting that we should meet up more often haha. Here we had an exchange of views like 恋爱心得, the distinction between "dating" and "getting attached", the criteria for a boyfriend, and, quoting my friend, "using brains when u fall in love".
It was when i'm heading home alone on the MRT ytdy that i found the link between the 2 discussions. The thing about the second discussion is that everyone was naturally talking about marriage as the next step to a steady couple... even the newest pair! and in the 1st discussion me and xj were lamenting over the fact that JC was actually the best time to “轰轰烈烈地爱一场”，and we've already missed the chance to do so.
Why so? because in poly, both of us felt that we are isolated from the rest of the school by 1. age gap, 2. nonsensical CCAs that does not serve its purpose of connecting students of different schools together, and 3. our heavy, packed timetable. and after we graduate, we'll be working with doctors, nurses, OTs, PTs, SLTs etc etc, and hence the limited social circle.
To understand the last point, you must share my idea of a “轰轰烈烈” relationship. It meant being head over heels in love with for no apparent reason at all, exciting, exhilarating, with adventures that you can remember even after you've parted ways. if you end up together, tt's good! but it's not neccessarily geared towards the direction of a marriage from the start...
ah~ can see i'm a bit of a romantic + fiction here. What i'm basically saying here is that i'm not hoping for my first relationship to be my last. What i'm looking out for is just
something special.
Which is why the probability of it gets lower as we get older. Coz not only the social circle gets smaller, people will also lack the courage to "try something different". The older you get, the more you'd be thinkning of marriage.
haiz. That's the way society works i guess. nevermind me. i'm just doing my round of idealistic, unrealistic sputterings.
è¯å yawned @ 11:41 AM
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